Imagine a fabulous world where you feel important and significant to yourself no matter what innocent action you do. You can mentally live in this world when you focus on thinking thoughts that ONLY CREATIVELY encourage, support and uplift you to EFFORTLESSLY excel at virtually anything you PHYSICALLY do. How do you CREATE?
Creating is done by THEORIZING about (instead of criticisizing what you CAN'T do to achieve) a goal. When we think in theoretical ways, we are merely compiling details about a goal and thinking about how we CAN achieve a desired goal.
For example, suppose you would like to feel comfortable speaking in public. This is people's number one fear - the fear of speaking publicly. Ok. Now you know WHAT goal you'd prefer to achieve. What is ONE thought you can think or say out loud to yourself so you begin to do actions that result in your feeling calm while you speak publicly?
First, pretend that you are a future version of yourself remembering a time when you felt calm speaking publicly. Describe ONLY a mental picture of you feeling comfortable standing before an audience. Maybe the script would be something like this:
"I remember standing before the crowd. All eyes were on me. I looked at my notes and for an instant, I thought I should just remember that all these people were my friends. They want me to succeed. They like the idea of hearing information they can use to benefit themselves.
So, theory 1 is that everyone here PREFERS for me to say something interesting.
Theory 2 is that everyone here is my friend and friends support and accept each other. I choose to believe that everyone here is in a relationship with me. A long term relationship with me that is really a friendship.
Yes, they appreciate me and I appreciate me. It's all good.
How can I plan a comfortable feeling inside as I deliver my message? I know, I will simply single out one friend in the audience and talk directly to him or her. That's easy enough. Hey, this public speaking stuff is EASY for me. I can do this!"
And off you go, pretending that you've already successfully THEORIZED your way into feeling comfortable speaking in public. Wow! Great memory!
More later.
Ta Ta For Now (TTFN)
Susan
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As a fellow hypnotist, who often burns dinner, I want to say that I love your blog and hope to read more.
Thanks for reminding us that there "is no failure only feedback" (old NLP saying) and that even when we mess up, we are still significant and important: we just know what mistake not to make next time.
Wishing you the best of success,
Sheilah
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